By Dr. Peter James There now follows a one sided conversation written or should I say more aptly, addressed to no-one, but to everyone in many ways a conversation that when you read it, a lot of you may find that you can relate to, so you may well find that you are responding to the following lines as you read the passage. There is nothing wrong in reading or behaving like this as it is there to alert you to the need to be aware of life going on around us and all sorts of people in our sometimes daily lives, who are in turn aching to have such a conversation and are unable to, because they feel that no-one will listen to them. We must all learn to be aware of others in our lives, no matter how high or low our opinions of them may be at the time. So take note, we are all individuals making up this worlds population, we are all brothers and sisters, we all need to belong together. “My friend, how are you?” “Why are you feeling down?” “No, you are not on your own, you never have been, or ever will be.” “Yes, I know that it is hard to believe.” “What makes you think that you are so different from someone else?” “Hang on a minute; Ive been there as well, so there is not anyway that, you can say that no-one understands.” “Yes, it is hard to believe, is it not?” “No, No, No, thats not the way to do it, just bottling something up just makes it worse, and I used to do that. It made me tired, irritable, shy, untrusting, wary, generally an un-person, no-one would speak to me or help me as they felt that I treated them like dirt, so they ignored me when ever I was around, this led to a very hurtful life for me.” “Whats that?” “Oh yes, some tried to help, do you know what I did? Kicked them in the face for it, just threw it back at them, I lied to them, cheated on them, pretended Id done something, or just plain ignored them, strung them along in fact.” “Why?” “Ill try to tell you why, I was so intent in wallowing in my own self pity, claiming that no-one understood me, that no-one cared, even saying so to those that tried to help. Stupid isnt it? When someone shows they care, pushing it back in their face.” “Do you know something? It is their very own perseverance in trying to help you, by making you help yourself - instead of wallowing in your own mire.” “I didnt accept it at first, but now we can show you how to help yourself, then increase that help as it shows you need it.” “Once, a while back I got sick of being sorry for myself and stood up to my problems. Stood up to my life, which wasnt a proper life, caused me to stand up and be counted.” “Youve heard it all before, have you?” “Well think about it will you?” “Then really soon youll be standing up where I am. “True, nothing is perfect, but you will be well on the way to helping yourself and others around you to a happier life, outside the personal prison that you have built for yourself. You will find that care, trust and respect enter your life. Honesty will also appear, along with understanding. All the other signs of lying, irritable behaviour, untrusting attitudes, wariness, shyness and loneliness will all fade away in due course as your life progresses. Yes, it may have been going on for years, but that is not a good or valid reason to think that nothing can be done to help you. No, it may not happen over night, but at an increasing pace over the coming weeks and months of your life. I can quite believe you not understanding it before. As I said earlier, no matter what we go through in life, someone has been there before us. No, theres no need to thank me in words. Show me in deeds and acts, which are more than enough thanks for me, and all those around who are trying to help. Let us all as a team break down the wall that you have built yourself. “I’ll give you one piece of advice. Learn to work as a team with others.” Not only in groups, why not someone special as well, someone who is willing to help and can grow to understand you.” So do your best, you cant do any better than that. All you have to say is those two little words - help me, and they will. Try to remember you are not alone, or ever have been, or ever will be. Yes, I enjoy talking with you as well.” “Yes - Ill be thinking of you. Take care.” “Bye for now, keep in touch.” Since the age of 16 when the author discovered that he was adopted, his curiosity was roused, sharpened and then over time honed to it’s present state by an insatiable and ever growing desire to find out ‘What makes people tick’. Was it simply modern life, with all it’s stresses and Dog eat Dog lifestyles? Evolution not catching up with today fast enough for us to adapt properly? Tomorrow arriving before today has had a chance to even arrive? A combination of all three being present at the same time seems to hold some water! The Author has also studied modern day effects whilst looking into the prior mentioned triple whammy, among them the effects and causes of mental pain on people in everyday lives they lead, during the last 30+ years, he has a knack of seeing people in their own light without them realizing they are being observed and analyzed for their own benefit. He passed his Masters in September 2000 and attained his First Doctorate in during 2004 and has recently attained a second DSc in Psychology. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Peter_James http://EzineArticles.com/?A-Better-Life-For-You!—Your-New-Independence-Day?&id=412508 overdose ativan cerebral palsy sleep ambien how to purchase phentermine ambien and soma online ambien cheapest